I spent last half of the past year trying to figure out how to best reconnect and help someone very dear to me who has an addiction problem. After only a very superficial small success with reconnecting, I began to wonder how many others have similar experiences with a friend, Aunt, Uncle, Sister, Brother, Child or Parent. The feeling of not being able to do anything to help a loved one to break the cycle of addiction and self destruction can be heartbreaking. Heading into the new year, I thought it would be appropriate to share with you how I maintain hope through prayer for those fighting addiction.
The holiday season can be particularly hard for those who are battling with an addiction problem. Often family ties that are strained or severed, due to the erratic and irrational behavior caused by the addiction, are particularly difficult to reckon with during a time of year that is about friends and family and sharing how much you care. There is a tendency for the addict to maintain a facade, to constantly lie or to just disappear, to avoid the pressure of their family’s expectations.
Addiction is something nobody likes to talk about; Not the addict, not the family, nor friends, nor children who are affected by the addict’s behavior. But the hard truth is nearly everyone has at least one family member or friend who has an addiction problem.
Now, I would describe myself as more spiritual than religious. Yet, when I lay my head on my pillow at night and when I wake each morning I literally recount the things that I am grateful for and then I say a prayer for the people I know who are afflicted by addiction. I know how helpless it can feel to watch people you love continue to make horrible choices. For me, this small daily act provides hope. Which is why I wanted to share this prayer with you.
My prayer for those fighting addiction:
- I pray that you find inner peace; That you realize what truly matters in life and that you focus your actions around this.
- I pray that you open your heart to a higher power, and accept the strength which comes through that relationship.
- I pray that rather than a foundation of sand, you use the strength from that newfound relationship to rebuild your life on a rock. An immovable, solid foundation that will outlast the turbulence and turmoil, the cravings and the loneliness, and will provide you with the basis for lasting inner peace.
- I pray that from that rock you find your tribe; your extended family of people who really do want to see you succeed, not just in on the surface but in living an abundant life that truly matters.
- I pray that you help yourself decide to own your current situation and absolve yourself of all influences that helped enable you to arrive and stay in your present situation.
- I pray that from your newfound family you find strength to engage your willpower to leave your past connections in the past.
- I pray that you know that I am here to listen to you when you need to talk.
- I pray that you know that I will help support you along your difficult journey.
- I also pray that you know that I will not enable you to hide from your demons nor will I enable you to continue down a destructive path.
- I pray that you are able to return to a life where you know that you deserve the love that is bestowed upon you. And where you love and respect yourself enough to not take your life for granted any longer.
Prayer Transforms and Heals
Research has proven the influential power of positive intention, positive thinking and positive prayer. One of my favorite studies on this was done by Dr. Masaru Emoto, from which he produced a free ebook for children.
The study is a demonstration of the effects of thought, words, prayer and music on energy. Since everything is made of energy, Dr. Emoto directed specific thoughts to water and froze it, which very apparently affected the patterns in which ice crystals formed on freezing water. In the same wayt, a prayer for those fighting addiction is a form of positive energy or intentions. So, even though you may not be able to do something for your loved one that produces immediate and tangible results, your prayer and positive thoughts are as important as ever before.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. -Reinhold Niebuhr